After non stop visitors since August I am so ready to have my house back. My routine, my space, my life. . . but at what cost.
My mum and stepdad just flew home this evening cry , and I am so low. I want to always have that happy feeling, the one that gave my mum a smile. I know she worries about us, especially since John's heart attack.
Do you feel low when visitors leave, or are you happy to just be yourselves again?
NO nobody comes to see us we have no friends , family, acquintances , bisinesss associates etc etc .
I never feel very upset when anyone from my husbands family leaves. I'm f---ing glad. No more Fox News, endless crappy US sports on TV. No more criticism on me and my house and what I hold dear. In fact, If they think of coming to my house again I'm going to bloody well be out.
However, when my parents leave, when my friends leave I feel awful for a couple of weeks afterwards.
Well, Al's 64 RV broke down in the Nob Hill Center opposite the Kragen autoshop and Cheap Cigarettes. As he said, he could live there until things worked. The shop had the part his van needed ( shock )
and now ( having found a street mechanic who fixed the problem) he's broken down somewhere else close by with another silly problem, steam or something, thermostat.
So , no I don't know how it feels when visitors leave, but I'm looking forward to the experience. wink
Annie - how far has he got? A couple of miles from your house? -)
Not exactly sure Pilgrim. He's within a 20 mile radius. I just feel that.
Mind he was going down south and even after seeing the TV news he was still sure he could get thru. There's no explaining to those who don't want to hear. You say they'll only let firefighters, cops and paramedics thru and he thinks he'll be the exception. Ah, the old hippy mentality. Hopeful, cheerful and male chauvanist pig all rolled into one. lol
It's kind of the reverse, but I always go into a deep depression for 2 or 3 months after I visit home. I just do not see any way out of this situation for me and it just kills me. Things slowly get slightly better, for my wife it must me misery dealing with me.
It's kind of the reverse, but I always go into a deep depression for 2 or 3 months after I visit home. I just do not see any way out of this situation for me and it just kills me. Things slowly get slightly better, for my wife it must me misery dealing with me.
That's a shame. My husband is pretty much the same way. We just got back a couple of weeks ago from the UK and although the visit was not that great (his family can be miserable) he is really depressed being back here in the states. He asked if there is anyway I would ever consider moving to the UK. I'm not against it entirely...I just think we need a good plan in place to have all our bills paid first and have some savings before we make the move. Plus I would have to go thru the immigration part which is such a pain. Wish it was a little easier...... It would also be easier if my in-laws weren't so difficult to be around. I will NOT live near them if we were to move to the UK.
It's kind of the reverse, but I always go into a deep depression for 2 or 3 months after I visit home. I just do not see any way out of this situation for me and it just kills me. Things slowly get slightly better, for my wife it must me misery dealing with me.
That's a shame. My husband is pretty much the same way. We just got back a couple of weeks ago from the UK and although the visit was not that great (his family can be miserable) he is really depressed being back here in the states. He asked if there is anyway I would ever consider moving to the UK. I'm not against it entirely...I just think we need a good plan in place to have all our bills paid first and have some savings before we make the move. Plus I would have to go thru the immigration part which is such a pain. Wish it was a little easier...... It would also be easier if my in-laws weren't so difficult to be around. I will NOT live near them if we were to move to the UK.
I would love to go back, but my wife is American, I chose to come here and we she has a daughter that I love and quite franky she needs us...no way out really. So I just lump it.
Used to feel just like you Eastendboy but then something changed.
Now I find it a bit of a hassle to think about going back and maybe enough time has passed for it not to be an issue any more.
I guess it depends on what you left behind. I miss my family but they keep in contact and come to visit often and the other things, I don't particularly miss any longer.
Yes, I can feel low after visitors. I find what helps is who takes them back to the airport. If they are someone close to me then hubby takes them back so we don't have the goodbyes. we can then fool ourselves into believing they have just gone out for the day.
However, I am sure it will be different when it comes to being our own children rather than my parents, or when my parents can't come anymore. My parents are here now but they were here in April/May so that helps too.
I'm sorry you are feeling down, MMM. It is hard but I hope you don't get too low. When I feel low because someone has left I tuck myself up in a blanket, get a bunch of movies to watch and a huge bar of chocolate and a huge bag of salt and vinegar chips, and then wallow in my own sadness for a day. There is something very comforting about feeling sorry for yourself and just going with it for a day.
I'm sorry you are feeling down, MMM. It is hard but I hope you don't get too low. When I feel low because someone has left I tuck myself up in a blanket, get a bunch of movies to watch and a huge bar of chocolate and a huge bag of salt and vinegar chips, and then wallow in my own sadness for a day. There is something very comforting about feeling sorry for yourself and just going with it for a day.
Ben ,why don't you get out into the garden and do something to get your mind off things :?: Like offer to cut the lawn or do something creative with the plants :roll: :roll: It is raining in NJ today or I would be practising what I preach :roll: :mrgreen: