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Hi is there anyone out there ?i feel like i feel of the face of the earth.Maybe i should sew a pal, no ive already named my dress froms so id better be carefull.lol

I have no idea what it is you're trying to say.

Please clarify.

Andrew :)

Hi maybe ive posted this on the wrong page but you are kinda snippy,so ignore this if its not for you

No, I'm not snippy, (as the person that runs this place I have a duty to make sure posts are clear) but your post doesn't make sense.

If you're looking for help, or advice simply clarify, or are you looking for discussions about sewing?

You're post isn't very clear.

Andrew :)

Hi Zatnoa! Welcome to Britnet )

Why don't you tell us a little of your situation and perhaps we can come up with some suggestions on how to make it better. You never know, we might even be able to rustle up some pals for you, depending on where you live.

How long have you been in the US (if you are in the US, that is), do you work etc.

Hi no i live in philly and would love some gal pals or even some guy pals but no relationships,just pals ,im not sure how to reply to this board just yet ,but thank you for now

Excellent.

Okay that clarifies things nicely.

First, I would suggest that you post a brief introduction in the intro forum. People do take note and it's a good spot to say a little about yourself without anyone having input.

Next, check out the "Get Togethers" forum, and see if there are any peeps near you. You can always post a request to set up a get together, just remember the usual "sensible rules" regarding meeting people you haven't met before.

Other than that, just join in and post away (and welcome!!)

Andrew :)

We do have a few folks within striking distance of Philly - NYC, Baltimore, DC etc., and they are fairly sociable too. If you are up for a slightly longer drive or train ride, there are infamous parties run the Connecticult.

And I don't believe that Monster has been to Philly yet... lol

As for making friends - it takes time and you have to make the lion's share of the effort. Everyone around you already has friends and they don't need you as much as you need them. The tried and tested methods are joining clubs, classes, church etc., and not missing an opportunity for getting together with work colleagues (organised happy hours after work, etc.). You can also make people indebted to you by offering to do them favours, such as being the designated driver for an event, or perhaps offering to babysit or something like that. Basically, you have to make the investments.

When you move to another country, one of the cultural things you have to deal with is that you have zero history. What you have picked up throughout your childhood is basically gone and you have to do a super fast crash course as an adult. You have to keep your eyes and ears open all the time to detect the various social cues, and if you miss or resist these, you are just cutting off your nose to spite your face.

It is "normal" for it to take the best part of 2 years to feel comfortable and at home. If you can do it faster, you are very lucky.

Best of luck to you, and please keep up with us at Britnet. We have all been in your shoes and know exactly how you feel, and I would imagine that most of us have received the kind of help that we can offer you now. Take care!

Was there at Christmas, as it happens. You think they'd replace that cracked bell with a nice shiny new one, wouldn't you. Had a great cheesesteak sandwich in a diner, though :D

We did the cheesesteak tour as well. BIL lives in Philadelphia and he took us to the fab (although dingy) part of town where there was a cheesesteak place on each corner of the intersection - it was the place to be, apparently.

We were there for about two hours .....for dinner and a quick drive-by viewing of the bell on the way to Gettysburg..... the sandwich was good, though.....