My boyfriend and I are having a baby in December. He doesn't want to get married just for the sake of our baby. Can he get a green card or get a work permit to move here in any way? I have been looking things up trying to sort it out myself but I'm baffled. He has a 22 in Advanced Computing at university. I overstayed my UK visa and the only way I can move back there is if we get married, but we'd like to avoid that for a while if at all possible. Thanks for your help!
Candice
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No, you need to be married for him to get a greencard, really -and even then it takes time. Or he could get a job here with a company that would sponsor him, but that's not very likely to happen, to be honest.
Marriage really is the issue here.
You say he doesn't want to get married "just for the sake of the baby" and you don't want to get married just so you can move to the UK. To my atheist mind, children are the main reason for marriage. To my expatriate mind, immigration is the next best reason. I hate to put a damper on things, but if neither of you are ready to get married, it seems to me you should call it a day and work out a child support agreement.
I'm in the same frame of mind as you are! It's my poor boyfriend who's the one who's going to suffer really. I WOULD get married just so I can move to the UK, as we can then be a family (and I do love my boyfriend). It just goes against everything my boyfriend thinks about marriage I guess. We both have divorced parents, too, so we've both been down that road. I think we're just going to go for the fiancee's visa and I'm going to move there. It's our only option because of my overstay, and my boyfriend would probably not want me to leave if there was something he could do about it anyway. Wow what a nightmare! I never would've overstayed my visa if I knew this would happen...silly silly billy.
To my atheist mind, children are the main reason for marriage. To my expatriate mind, immigration is the next best reason. I hate to put a damper on things, but if neither of you are ready to get married, it seems to me you should call it a day and work out a child support agreement.
Balls. If you don't want to get married you need to "work out a child support agreement". What kind of nonsense is that? We had no plans to marry after having children, but we did so my wife could come to america - and that's the only reason we did it.
Mind you it was a great way to propose - "I'm going to america, you coming?"
Balls. If you don't want to get married you need to "work out a child support agreement". What kind of nonsense is that?
Oh dear, you seem to have a case of premature ejaculation. Sometimes it's helpful to read the OP before clicking reply :roll:
If they don't get married they can't live in the same country. Therefore some agreement will be needed as to how the parent not living with the child is going to help support it. In what way is that balls or nonsense?
I think it was just kind of rude. It sounded like you were insinuating because my boyfriend doesn't want to marry me right this minute that we have to work out this horrible child support issue. It's resolved anyway. I called the Consulate and I am allowed a visitor's visa to go back for 6 months. Except I have to get it before I go and may be interviewed because of my past overstay. So everything's sorted =D
So if you don't mind me asking how far gone are you?
if more than 3 months, will the little one be born in England?
If so I think you will be on very dodgy ground.
The kid will be a British Citizen and the UK Government will have no obligation to allow the child to leave the UK without the fathers consent.
you however will have to leave as you say after 6 months. Sans Baby if worst case scenario.
I'm sorry if you thought I was being rude, sadgirl, I was trying to be as concise as possible as the last thing people in a dilemma usually need is waffle. Glad you got it sorted.
I am 6 months gone and the baby will be born here in America =) The father and I are on excellent terms, in fact we're still together, so whatever citizenship the baby holds, we'll both have complete access whatever happens. Hopefully, if I can sort it with the consulate I will be allowed to do the BUNAC program which means I can work while I am in England and that makes all of our lives a lot easier! Surely if they will grant me a visitors visa, they will allow me a blue card, as I'd have to pay taxes =D
I suppose it just depends on who you talk to at the consulate and how much they know.
a blue card?
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You seem pretty optimistic, but I think that without getting married they'll still throw you out of the country. You may be able to argue that he is a common law partner or something along those lines. Might be worth a shot.
What's a blue card? I never heard of that. Could it be the Police Registration?
You know, you really don't have any rights to be admitted to the UK. The baby will make no difference to your case. In fact, you will be starting off in a worse situation than most (baby and track record of overstays), because it will be assumed that you have immigrant intent and you will need to prove otherwise. It will only really be by grace that you are let in. Now if you were married, that would change things enormously.
There's a difference between being optimistic and stupid, and I am not stupid thank you. I KNOW I don't have any right to be in the country, baby or not, which is why I am looking at all my options and getting advice from the consulate. If I can't go back it's not the end of the world but why be pessimistic and not even try? And I KNOW marriage would make life easier. Unfortunately, it takes two committed people to get married and my boyfriend and I would rather look into other options before rushing into something we might not be ready for.
And a Blue Card is the work permit you get on the BUNAC program.
a blue card?
:o
You seem pretty optimistic, but I think that without getting married they'll still throw you out of the country. You may be able to argue that he is a common law partner or something along those lines. Might be worth a shot.
I'm not in the country, they can't throw me out (yet). And I will NEVER overstay my visa again. I've learned my lesson!
This post started by asking about how my English boyfriend can come to America...how did it get to this?!?!?!
I'm not in the country, they can't throw me out (yet). And I will NEVER overstay my visa again. I've learned my lesson!
This post started by asking about how my English boyfriend can come to America...how did it get to this?!?!?!
The first reply answered your question fairly well.
a blue card?
:o
You seem pretty optimistic, but I think that without getting married they'll still throw you out of the country. You may be able to argue that he is a common law partner or something along those lines. Might be worth a shot.
I'm not in the country, they can't throw me out (yet). And I will NEVER overstay my visa again. I've learned my lesson!
This post started by asking about how my English boyfriend can come to America...how did it get to this?!?!?!
You can tell them you've learned your lesson, but they see so many people that do this ..they may give you a hard time and/or a kick in the behind back onto the plane. Take the advice of these people they know what they are talking about. Noone is out to get you or say you are stupid. Just know that you can't assume they will let you work.. if it were that easy I think a lot of us would have been with the ones we loved a lot sooner!
Good Luck, and congrats on the baby!!!
Melissa(Missie)